The Night I Had Nothing Left for One More Decision
Last week, my husband asked me a perfectly reasonable question:
“Do you think I should pick up some overtime hours in December?”
And I felt… irritated.
Not because of the question itself. Not because he was asking for my opinion.
But because, by the end of the day, my brain had already made too many decisions — for our clients, for my team, for our family — and I didn’t have anything left in the tank.
In that moment, what I heard wasn’t the question.
It was: Make another decision.
Thankfully, he followed it up with:
“We don’t have to talk about it tonight — we can talk in the morning.”
And that was the gift.
Because in the morning?
I was a completely different version of myself.
With a rested mind — before the day had piled on — I could be open, kind, and thoughtful. I could truly listen. I could thank him for caring enough to think about how his work schedule impacts both of us. And I could give clear input about what actually matters to me:
that he stays safe and doesn’t exhaust himself (a very real worry on winter drives after an overnight shift)
that we have a plan for dinners during busy weeks
that Saturdays stay sacred for us
In the morning light, the same conversation that felt overwhelming the night before became easy, steady, loving.
That’s decision fatigue. And most women leaders I work with don’t even recognize when it’s happening — we only feel the friction.
Why Even “Small” Decisions Feel Heavy
The truth is, leadership isn’t just the big calls we make.
It’s the constant stream of micro-decisions all day long:
What needs my attention first?
How do I respond to this?
What’s the right next step?
Does this belong on my plate or someone else’s?
And layered on top of that — for many women — is the emotional and mental labor of home, relationships, caregiving, and social expectations.
No wonder something as small as “Should I take overtime?” can feel like too much at 8:30 p.m.
The Reset We All Need
That moment with my husband reminded me how different I am when I protect my decision-making energy — when I give myself space to pause rather than push.
It’s exactly why I created the Executive Reset Pack — a resource to help high-capacity women recognize decision fatigue, interrupt the pattern, and return to clarity faster.
Inside, you’ll find simple, practical tools to:
identify what’s actually draining you
reduce the overwhelm around everyday choices
use NLP strategies to reset your thinking
reinforce healthier decision patterns that support calm, confident leadership
Most importantly:
It helps you reclaim the version of yourself that shows up with grace, steadiness, and intention.
The version of yourself who can have the important conversations — in the morning or otherwise — without feeling depleted.
If You’re Feeling the Creep of Decision Fatigue…
You’re not failing.
You’re human.
And you’re carrying a lot.
A reset doesn’t always require a vacation or a sabbatical.
Sometimes, it’s simply a shift — small, intentional, doable.
If you’re ready to feel clearer, calmer, and more grounded in your decisions, download the Executive Reset Pack below.
Your clarity is worth protecting.
Your peace is worth fighting for.
